QUESTIONS #4 |
life after death experience |
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A quick note to eveone who has anxiously awaited something new. Here it is. I am amazed at all of your positive responses, your support and eagerness to have me get this complete story on the web. The size of this task is overwhelming but I will faithfully endeavor to continue until this task is finished. Thanks everyone!. |
Q. My only question to you is: "Are you saying that there is only one true way into the kingdom of God?" If that answer is yes and it involves our relationship with Jesus Christ, does that mean that many are headed for hell?" |
Thankyou! I truly appreciate the opportunity to answer this question. I really think it is one of the pivotal points to my actually being returned to life. To ask this you have had to read my statement about people who should be very very afraid of dying. Answering this question delves a bit into the embarrassing and personal side of my experience. You may have surmised that there are people who are both afraid and unafraid of death. Some of them say, this life now is all there is and I'm going to get everything out of it that I can. I've personally noticed that those afraid are uncertain about themselves. They might not show a lack of confidence, most likely are very capable people. When it comes to death or the end of their lives however, there is uncertainty as to what is there, what is waiting for them when they "leave the house" in spite of everything they have done or accomplished. While I was in heaven I was admonished to tell it as it is and not to change it in an way. This concerns me greatly. I am only human - again- and I truly don't want to mess up. I also have to relate earthly and human ideas along with a spiritual answer and events. Is Christ the only way? Here is my answer combined with yesterdays events. Well, I was at a funeral yesterday for a man who had committed suicide. I don't like to go to funerals but I was requested to attend by a man I admire for his strength of commitment and faith. Even more, I didn't want to attend because this was a suicide, and many of the people there would be criminals, drug dealers, gang leaders and members, people who hurt people for fun, men and women who have present habitual criminal problems. A few of them spoke with me. They wanted me to "prove" to them that heaven and hell existed,that Christ was the only way to personal salvation and righteousness. They ran the gammit of beliefs. Some were saved by the very man who had died, then the other end of the group were those who were downright hostile about the whole idea, convinced there was no God. There is no way that I can "prove" anything, and these agnostic and disbelieving people wanted something tangible and solid that they could connect with. Most of these people were concerned with what they coud latch onto with their five senses. One of them said that people are judged by the good they do and "brother, I just don't do much good! I'm gonna get what I can while the gettings good" That is an interesting perspective indeed. You see, I have always, well usually tried to do my very best. There came times in my life where I associated actions to the golden rule. Do to others...... because I did know how I wanted to be treated. So, I did not make it my lifestyle to go around doing bad, doing harm, being bad. I rather instead tried to make some positive contributions and head my life in a worthwhile direction. I didn't do that alone. I had some mighty fine mentors who helped point me in that direction. Mr. Frank Hallett, Mr. William Hickman, My Father, Mac McCulley, Steve Harvey, and many others were all helpful and made positive contributions to shape my life. I am not counting the life experiences we all have interacting with other people., but good solid one on one foundations and experiences with these "pillars". So the point of this is that I thought I was a fairly good person in spite of a few flaws. Police didn't come knocking on my parents door saying "your kid is in trouble again". Instead, I gained awards,honours, and personal accomplishments. So, when I was being judged Imagine the distress at finding out you're not even close to being a good and righteous person. NOT EVEN CLOSE! I didn't make the grade. No close shave, no near miss, a complete and utter failure. Note also, that I wasn't alone in this boat! Not one single solitary person there was able to cut the mustard either. All by ourselves each one of us there failed! The outcome was pretty clear to me at this time. Being flawed, having failed, no make that having failed miserably, I knew with absolute certainty that I was doomed. I was headed to eternal damnation and there were no more chances to set the record in my favour. It was just simply over for me and that was that. Have I succeeded in expressing my despair? I hope so people because I was encompassed in total grief,uncontrollable despair, and exposed humilation. I've had emptiness, anxiety, and despair rage in the pit of my stomache before but I just don't know the words to totally express, to communicate and properly share this knowledge of "doom finality". It is so impossible to properly put down words to show what I was feeling and going thru at that time!!! Quite simply put, inspite of my best efforts I couldn't do it myself and now I was suffering! These people at the funeral wanted absolute proof that there was more to this life, afterlife, eternal life, than just the now. Actually, I do have proof. I am here today to share my experience in death. I should not be here. I'm dead! Yet, I am alive again because I am suppose to bring back this message, (won't repeat it here - you know what it is). I have been told by people that I am also bringing hope along with the message and knowledge. GOOD! I asked one person, "do you know any dead people"? The answer was "yes, but they are dead." Well, now you have met and know a dead person who is living. A dead person who you can hear instead of carrying on a one way monologue. You know a dead person you can get a response from. A dead person who has been there and is sharing what is there waiting after this life. It is causing these people(at the funeral) to think, miracles do happen because dead people are suppose to stay dead, aren't they? Well, I had failed in life, I was doomed and in the midst of my total failure a voice spoke. " Pat stood up for me, now I will speak for him". Can you say "emotional turnaround"? I think you can! I knew what this meant. My shoulders didn't feel nearly so heavy anymore. There was joyous relief, overwhelming happiness where moments before there was total distress. There was "happy feet" dancing folks. At that moment Jesus Christ snatched me from vicious jaws of doom. I certainly didn't or couldn't do it. Does any one of you know any other way? So, there you are. That is my experience. Not myself or any other person there being judged made the grade. Everyone of us failed by ourselves. If every other person alive today has as much success as I had on my own, I can certainly say they will fail also. I just don't know and didn't see any other way! I know that making that choice is exceptionally difficult, but I have also discovered that obstacles are often in front of worthwhile things. Accepting Jesus Christ was / is the difficult path. I am so very thankful that I made one smart decision during my first life! |
Q. Did or do you have insurance? |
This question has become a soap box opportunity. Yes, I had insurance. I used it up. I was covered by Harrison trust and Medicare. It is a soapbox opportunity because inspite of the fact that I had both of these insurances the coverages were totally inadequate. Surprisingly they are better than most. Necessary things and procedures absolutely needed to help me often weren't covered or they were delayed for administrative review for relevance. Some necessary immediate needs were refused or delayed for a "review". Virginia had to use some very creative finances to help pay for my medical care. People die and suffer during these reviews. I sometimes think that the very purpose of these delays is the hope that people will die so the expenses won't have to be met. They try to wait you out. Since my recovery I have thanked God repeatedly that I wasn't covered by an HMO. My experiences with HMO's is all bad. In my opinion they just don't care about you. The dollar is the bottom line and if you exceed your cost you get dropped like a hot potato. News has been discovered that physicians are paid bonuses to keep health care under costs. How can they do this? First this is a monetary incentives to withhold care from you! Tests, care, and certain treatments are withheld or not advised to "meet the bottom line". Let's get that $100,000.00 yearly bonus for meeting cost analysis. This shows, no this alone proves that your health is not the true singular purpose of a health care facility. Payment to avoid treatment? Bonuses paid instead of care rendered? How do you view this? I know this money would be better spent treating patients. Mail written about my observation has been 100% in my corner, Well, except the HMO executive who flagrantly denied it. "GET THEE BEHIND ME SATAN"! "Prescriptions are cheap" use to be a battle cry, but now many of us have found out that the allowance for care is cheap too, I don't mean inexpensive either. Some petty claims administrator sits behind a desk and withholds true needs from deserving patients. I am not alone in this feeling, even the government has made noises and pointed fingers. There are HMO's that have been put on probation, dropped from programs, or dropped patients because they cost the organization to much money. Isn't that the point of health care?? Helping people who pay premiums get access to the care they need? Nope, just doesn't always work out that way. I bet that everyone of you have a story about a poor HMO patient who was denied benefits they absolutely needed and because of that refusal needlessly suffered somehow!!! I have a cousin and a newphew that went thru frustrating experiences trying to get much needed care from an hmo facility. My cousin is now dead, (on a permanent basis) and my newphew still suffers from lack of treatment for his broken back. See, soapbox opportunity! But it must be said. Problems are not solved by ignoring them. So, Fortunate that I was to have much superior insurance coverage, there were still procedures they refused to cover. This despite the fact that doctors said I needed them to save my life-immediately. He needs blood?, we will discuss and review it at the next administrators review board. Covered expenses still contain a deductible and a cost share basis. It works out that my insurances pay 80% and I pay 20% and that is for the covered things. There is also, deductibles and such that insurance are not responsible for. There are many more things they absolutely refused to cover. One of those was a wheel chair. Apparently it was just fine for me to sit in a chair and stare at the walls and out the windows. I know that I would walk again, but there was a time that I could not walk. Yes, I also have a new outlook on disabilities. Walking/transportation for a quadraplegic in my case was deemed unnecessary. I hope that there is a real challenge in congress for a true and real reform to health care coverage. Health care isn't necessarily the problem, it is fiscal and physical accessability to that care. I have often imagined what happens to a person put in a similar position who has no coverage at all? How could any of us foot the bill on our own? Maybe Bill Gates or Paul Allen, they might even own the facility, which would be a definate advantage. So, Please write your senators and representatives, State and federal, to work out a real solution to accessible, affordable health care for everyone. If you have solutions, fire them off along with your letters! Everyone knows there is a problem and "something" must be done. The question is What is to be done? Let me share this, I'm sure most of you ll find this amusing Three men walked up to St. Peter at the gates of heaven, a doctor,an attorny and a Hmo administrator. The doctor first walked up and St. Peter asked "what did you do during your life" He answered "I was a doctor and I worked hard to save lives and ease pain and suffering among my fellows" St. Peter answered "Yes, it is all here in the book about the good you have done. Please enter into heaven" The Attorney approached and said, "St. Peter, I was an attorney and I worked diligently fighting the injustices and standing up for and helping those in plight" St. Peter answered "yes, It is all here in the book. Please pass thru the gates and enter into heaven." Lastly, the Hmo administrator stepped forward and said. "St Peter, I was a top administrator for a national health care organization. I worked hard and diligently and made sure that we met the bottom line" "Yes" St. Peter said," It's all here in the book. Please enter into the kingdom of heaven, but you can only stay three days" |
Q: Did you suffer brain damage? If you were dead for that length of time and then in a coma for 2 months how could you avoid it? |
First, I want to restate that I was told that I would walk again, that I would be healed but not totally healed. The purpose of this me is to see the miracles that happen all around us. The second reason is that if I were totally healed people would not listen to the message I have and perhaps I too, would have this experience fade into a distant memory. Having to struggle some with my disabilities serves to keep this fresh in my mind. Now, is there brain damage? Well, As with anyone who has had oxygen deprivation to their brain how could their not be some repercussions? When I first gained any conscieness I was trapped in a non working body. I had machines performing life giving tasks and I was "plumbed" for all the others. I refer to all of the shunts and tubing stuck in me as plumbing. As I have regained abilities, there still are a number of things which are missing from my faculties. There are people I do not remember. People that have been close to in the past are no longer familiar to me. Certain abilities I once had no longer exist. There are of course certain physical - motor coordination problems. All of these things would indicate that there are a few neurons, cells, synapsis that are not up to best capacity. There are other things that show that I am still here. I have a lot of mental capacity to share memories, experiences, events, ideas, with people. I still respond to my name (that is actually a family joke) showing I know who I am. My past desires and drives are still evident. I still adhere to my doing my best. However, the psychologist has determined that I am alive and functioning despite my "strange tale of after life happenings". |
Q. Hi Pat, I was at a men's meeting where you were at. Even though there were a few people there who weren't fully convinced that you had died and returned, you were at ease with their doubting and questions. There was a confidence that came from you and dispelled their skepticism. Can you let me in on the secret you have? |
I am very happy to share my "secret" with everyone. The secret is that there is no secret. It has been right there in front of all of us and I have been sharing the "secret" everytime I share my story. It is all thru this book. But I will try to be much more specific and point this "secret" out best I can. AS I have stated earlier, The Non-Secret is that I have the strength given from the power of knowing. While most everyone has to relie on the faith that a little child has, I don't have to. I KNOW! I KNOW! There simply is no guessing when you know the truth and this is one of the gifts given me. Now this knowledge is being shared with you . When there is no guessing about what my job is, no guessing about the consequences of what I am sharing, no guessing about the rewards, no guessing at all,- how can I not be confident in what I am sharing ? If you drop a rock you know that it will fall to the ground. If you stand out in the rain you know you will get wet. So it is with me. I am not guessing because I know what I am sharing is true. That is why I am confident. I know what is there waiting for me, waiting for all if they simply want to have it. Let me give you a real life example: The Golden gate bridge was a project that naysayers and doubting thomasas said could not be done. Today it is a vital asset to San Francisco despite all of the objectors who doubted it. Even more evident to confidence is the facts that during the construction of the bridge, there were twenty people who fell from the high structures to their deaths. Work was slow to progress as workers were slow since they were uncertain about their safety. Who knows, at anytime during their shift one of them might fall to their certain deaths! Obviously they were afraid! Afraid of falling. It was difficult to concentrate on what workers were doing when the unknown loomed and interferred with a task. Eventually someone came up with the brillant idea of putting a net underneath the workers. Even with the net workers still fell, but happily enough, although the net was installed during the earlier phases of construction, only 10 more workers fell the entire remaining time. More interestingly still, of those ten, not one was killed. It is also rewarding and to the point to report that after the installation of the catchers net the productivity and moral of the workers was dramatically increased! Knowing that the net would catch them if they should fall, the workers now had confidence to do their jobs. The elimination of the fear of falling let them concentrate on their work and getting the job done. Here's the point of this story. It is so much easier to work well and with confidence when you know you have a safety net! So, in a much similar fashion if we have a safety net under us during our life we have the confidence to act without fear, the confidence to live better, to act better. Everyday we live God has given us a safety net so that we can have confidence. There are so so many people out there who are doubters, unconfident, afraid, skeptical who don't accept that this net is there waiting for them if they fall. You see, I have the power of knowing first hand that God's "safety net" is there. I can be confident, wouldn't you be also? I've been there and I am here simply to let you know it's true! |
Hello every one. This question is going to be unique because it is not just one question. It is the compilation of more than 500 letters, some phone calls, and personal/ very personal conversations. It is one of the root desires of wanting to know what will happen to us because of death. What will happen to those left behind. WHAT WILL HAPPEN AND BECOME OF US? So Here Goes, I am going to combine all of these so very similar questions into a series of very closely related questions here and do my very best to tell you what I know and experienced. |
So very recently a very close loved one died. (1) My life is in a terribly quandry without them. I feel lost and lonely and a part of me is aching and hurting terribly. I think of them constantly. I find it hard to believe they are gone and I can't be with them. (2) I want to know If I will see them again. (3) I want to know if we will be reunited. (4) Do They miss me too? (5)Can they see me? (6) Do they watch over me? (7) I mss them so much and am so lonely and empty inside that I am absolutely miserable and feel my life is meanigless without them so that I can't go on. |
Well my friends. I completly understand all of your concerns on this one. Not only from the prospective of having died myself, but from having had very very close friends and family members pass on recently. As I am writing this, I have just heard the news that one of my boyhood mentors and close friend has just died from bone cancer. I took two weeks to spend time with him in his Wyoming home, help care for him, and to say my goodbye. We both knew it would be the final goodbye. This last year my father died suddenly and unexpected, my grandmother, 2 uncles, an aunt,2 mentors(one today), and a close childhood friend (yesterday- Did I mention getting slapped awake?). Believe me this is a lot to happen in less than a year so the expected and unexpected losses of closed loved ones and friends has not only been staring me in the face, it has slapped me awake a few times! (oh yes, there is the mention!) First thing I have to share is that it is important and good that someone spends some time grieving for one who had died. It is a way that we have been given to help our emotions, physical self, and our soul heal. Is there pain when someone is lost to us? ABSOLUTELY there is and it is totally unhealthy to bottle this up inside and let it grow, fester and eat away at us. They have been totally physically and effectively separated from us and we feel it deeply. They are physically gone and no longer here to share our lives with. If we don't have some way to vent our grief then we can get sick physically and emotionally. Our lost companions would not want this for us. A time comes eventually when that grieving should slow and then come to an end, when we are now left with our memories of them. This is good and healthy. It is just normal and natural to remember someone in memorium and our hearts. To hide their passing and never mention it, to avoid it, is not normal and helps the wounds and pain to continue abnormally and sometimes grow in intensity. This isn't good for anyone. Funerals and memoriums are a closing conclusion for the living. It is a time for tying all the lose emotional ends together. Some will be able to do this more quickly than others. In many Native American tribal cultures, when someone dies, the close family members will mourn for one year. They will not wear their ceremonial and native dress. They will participate in ritual gathering, but they will not take part in many activities in honour of those who have left them. Each individuals' time to heal varies, but those who mourn the rest of their lives have obviously not healed and continued healthy lives as their loved ones would have wanted. With that part of the question(s) out of the way my friends. I need to take some personal time to heal just now. I will get back to answering and writing soon. I just have some "living and healing" to do now - - God Bless, Pat 08/17/01 |
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#2 Will I see them again? |
Well, I've danced around this issue when answering some other questions, but now I will tackle it head on. Will I see my (friend, companion, husband/wife, and all the rest) again? THAT DEPENDS! If you see these meaningful people again depends on your decisions. Your choice you make in life determines where you and they spend eternity. If both of you have not chosen Jesus Christ I can guarantee that death has permanently separated you. If only one of you have, then again the result is the same. However, If you both choose wisely, Choose to have eternal life and God's gifts then you will see each other again. Summing it up, Yes and no, depending on your choice during life. |
#3. Will we be reunited? |
This question is very similar to but just a little bit different than question #2. Reunification is not entirely the same as "seeing". It is a joining together. Whether or not we are united depends once again on our choices I spoke of in question two. Absolutely. The reuniting is much more completly a joining rather than physical touching. While there is complete separation for each individual to exist, there is also a complete joining. A harmoneous blending together of everyone. There was this intimacy which permeated the whole while also remaining and retaining one's individual self and identity. It is a very complete, so totally satisfying "togetherness". |
#4. Do they miss me too? |
No question about it. Yes, they most certainly do! As much as the loss, the separation we feel when someone so very close to us dies, the VERY SAME feeling of loss, separation, apartness is felt by the one who died. Just as you need to heal and get back to your life, They too need to heal before they can get on with theirs. |
#5. Can they see me? |
This answer is going to disappoint a lot of people. NO! When I first died, there was a period of time where I was taken places to, in effect, calm me down and help me gain peace at this new situation now faced. I was allowed for a brief moment to gain some peace and temporarily visit before I had to return to my place. When I think about this question more thoroughly, I suddenly realize that in truth this desire to have those departed to be seeing and watching over us is on the selfish side. We are after all thinking mosty of ourselfs'. I'm sure the comparison has been made that one cares for their gravesite (should they have one) by keeping it clean, perhaps bringing flowers on occasion. Sure, keeping them in our hearts and memories is good, but we don't spend all of our lives doing that. It would be unhealthy to stop living and stand by doing nothing but standing entry. So it is with those departed. They have other diversions and are separated from "this life". |
#6. Do they watch over me? |
Again, this is going to disappoint a lot of people who are hoping, but I think you will also understand. I'm sorry, no they don't. Not in a physical active sense. You see, God has charged his angels with that task! It is their job to watch over and help you. It is their task to ensure that you have the freedom to make your choices without restraint. It is terribly terribly important that this job of watching over us is undertaken by the angels and not by our loved ones. If I were allowed to watch over my family, I would interfere. I would step in and most probably disrupt the order and natural progression of things. I could not, would not possibly allow ANYTHING to happen which I believed would hurt them in any way. I'm sure that somehow, despite my best intentions, my interference, my love, would mess up freedom of choice and might even unintentionally harm them in some way. We grow and learn as we walk down life's path, and if Guardian Pat prevented anything but a rose coloured life for my loved ones, how could they grow, learn, and make informed choices? So it is wise, just, and good that the angels have had this appointed to them. The second side of this answer is that your departed ones do want the asolute best for you! Absolutely the very best but they cannot interfere with your life. |
#7. I miss them terribly and feel I can't go on. |
OH MY! Yes This hasn't been written in the form of a question but as a statement. I must address it. Out of the several hundred Times this has been said to me, often there are two statements which follow: 1. What can/should I do? 2. I just want to die! A question and a statement. The first is an actual cry for help while the second is a disturbing testimony to not having the security of salvation! Now you know why I started this answer this way. Please re-read the answer to the first question in this series. It is so terribly important that we go thru and complete the healing process. We must heal so we can go on living a full life. THAT is what we should do! Heal and move on. I haven't mentioned anything about forgetting. These people were important parts of our life and forgetting isn't in the equation. Healing and continued living is. Their influence and contributions help make a part of us what we are and living up to the best we can is one of the better ways to remember, to honour them and ourself's. The second statement is just plain scary! Wanting to die is an evil influence. Why?, Because everything and everybody that cares and love you wants you to live! Life is a very precious gift which should not be rejected. To reject life, to give up living, to somehow cause your demise is an evil and terrible thing! To consciously and with full faculty reject life is to reject Gods' gift. Now it is very important to repeat the message! EVERYTHING YOU DO, ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING GOES WITH YOU!!! EVERYTHING |